I have been taking a break from children's books to write something new.  Just over a year and a half ago, I lost a friend to suicide.  Shortly after, I had snippets of new songs coming to me.  Now, I've never been musically inclined.  I have not played an instrument in over 20 years.  I have always been able to write rhymes but having melody accompanying it was something totally new.  Then, I remembered how much my friend had loved music.  And just like that, an entire song with melody came to my mind about the aftermath of suicide. 

I was not sure what to do with this....  I reached out to MN Musician Mary Bue  who does some creative coaching on the side.  I remember thinking, "This may be nothing.....but it may be something."  She encouraged me to keep writing and recording anything that came to mind.  She asked what I heard and when I sang it to her, she sat at her keyboard and immediately played the melody.  I got goosebumps!  Mary recorded a draft of the song for me and I shared it with a colleague and mentor who said, "She needs to record that professionally."  Mary agreed and asked what else I heard to which I replied violin and cello.  She wrote those accompanying pieces and the next thing I knew, we were all in a studio with producer Tom Herbers. 

The song titled 'Aftermath' will be released via a virtual concert on March 11 at 7pm CST.  You can enjoy an exclusive performance from the comfort of your own home.  My hope is that the song helps others feel less alone in the aftermath of suicide.

Pre-save the song on spotify by clicking here.

As we retreat into our homes to prevent the spread of COVID-19, it can be challenging to keep our children entertained without turning to screen time.  Don't get me wrong, my kids have seen Moana a time or twelve.  But if they aren't stimulated throughout the day with new activities, they are way more likely to antagonize each other and test my limited patience.  I gathered 7 of our favorite activities--some for kids and some for adults--that you can do while practicing social distancing.

1) Snow Painting--Ok, this one is really only applicable if you live in an area that still has snow (hello, Duluth, MN).  Fill an old spray bottle with a cup of water and several drops of food coloring.  I like to dig through the recycling bin to find an old cereal box or something I can make a stencil out of.  In the picture below, I made a heart stencil that my kids used to make heart balloons, flowers, and dragonflies.  

2) Bubble Foam--My kids love this sensory activity.  Added bonus: they're killing germs on their hands as they play!  We use this recipe from Busy Toddler.  Whip up 2 parts water, 1 part bubble path, 1-2 drops of food coloring.  I like to hide plastic toys in the foam for them to find.  My little guy likes to play car wash and he drives his trucks through it.

3) Obstacle Courses--Another family favorite.  I place a broom across two chairs to have them army crawl underneath it.  Couch cushions come off and become lily-pads they have to hop between.  A hula hoop is placed on the floor and they have to roll it between one point to another.  A tennis ball is staged and they have to throw it into a 5 gallon bucket before moving on.  My kids like to compete against themselves.  So, I put their names on a chalk board and, underneath, I record their times for Heat 1, Heat 2, and Heat 3.  

4) Dance Parties--Remember the days where you danced your buns off and didn't have a care in the world?  Crank the tunes and challenge your kids to a dance-off.  This is a sure-fire way to boost everyone's moods.

5) Hunger Games--I know, it sounds morbid, but it is SOOOO FUN.  We made up this game based on the book a few years ago.  It is intended for older kids (10 +).  Fill old, unmatched socks with flour and tie the ends.  Place the socks on the floor in a central location.  This is the cornucopia for those who have read the book.  Start in a circle around your weapons.  GO!  Grab a sock or two and if you hit another person with it, they are out.  Last person standing is the winner.  This can be played indoors or out but we recommend outside if you have the space.

6) Online Workouts--If I don't work out, I get cranky.  Here are a few of my favorite free online workouts.  15 Min HIIT from Nourish Move Love.  Free yoga classes from Yoga Glo.

​7) Take a Virtual Tour--While the zoos and museums may be closed, they're still offering tours--virtually!  Yes, this is technically screen time but I like the educational component.  Our favorite is the Smithsonian's National Zoo.  

What are you doing to stay busy?  I'd love to hear your ideas or your feedback on these activities.  Be well!

Losing a pet is hard.  Having a heartbroken toddler pat the spot where our dog's bed used to be and saying, "Lilly, home" makes it even harder.  Click here to read the full article on the Duluth Moms Blog.  

It all started with my daughter Reese and her love for excavators. While driving around town, she would yell, “Excavator” from her car seat as we passed construction sites.  I would respond, “An impressive rig! Its main job is to…”  Reese would finish in response, “Dig, dig, dig!”  We continued the tradition after my son was born.

​With the peak of the #MeToo movement a year ago came a cultural awareness of representation.  It made me take a closer look at how women were included or portrayed in various areas of my life.  I realized that the construction-themed books we were reading to Reese did not have any women in them.  Not even one. This was the first sign for me.  What message was that sending to my equipment-loving daughter?  I want her to grow up believing that with passion, grit, and hard work, she can be anything.  I want my son to grow up seeing that a female welder or sprinkler fitter isn’t a novelty. 

Around that same time, in the winter of 2018, I attended an event put on by the local school district designed to introduce 10th grade students to the trades.  As I watched students laugh with each other while they donned harnesses and balanced on steel beams at the ironworkers’ booth, I overheard a teacher admonishing a student, “See, this is where you will end up if you don’t start doing your homework.”  I was horrified and livid.  In hindsight, I wished I had marched over to them and said, “Listen, if you want to make two-to-three times more than your classmates with degrees will make and be able to drive your grandchildren around town one day and say, ‘I built that’, these careers are for you.”  But I didn’t speak up.  I stayed silent and started brainstorming ways to change society’s perception of our industry.
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I mulled over the two needs I had identified:

1. To have more representation of women in a construction-themed children’s book
2. To honor and uplift the trades in the eyes of our society
   
   

Then, at a career fair, my coworker Annie mentioned that her boss wanted to give new parents in our companies a construction picture book with a pamphlet about how important it is to read to children.  It turned out to be the final sign that I needed.  I went home that night and put to paper all the little rhyming anecdotes I had been reciting to my kids over the years.  A book was born.